HANK:

A 55 year old father of 4 (2 by a prior marriage and 2 by the divorce discussed on this site) is person who was disabled prior to the second marriage. Hank opted to continue to work the entire time, (over 22 years) although it was a struggle with pain and discomfort.

As a corporate executive for Fortune 100, 200 and 500 companies, when it became too unbearable to stay in such a competitive environment that was so demanding upon him physically, Hank started his own business, knowing that the income would be reduced, the work load just as demanding, but would allow for him to take liberty time as needed to allow for his handicap and disabilities.

This choice was "better" as far as he was concerned because the income was better than to accept the lesser amount of Social Security Disability and a small Worker's Compensation payment.

This took place in the 8th year of the marriage, Jane, the daughter, now 20 was but 5 years old.

By that time, Hank had been hospitalized frequently for injury and reinjury of his spine (Hank had multiple spinal surgeries 2 years prior to the marriage. The disabilities were known at that time. The two surgeries were not rated as successful.) 

Three years later, Hank was injured severly, so severly that he was actually pronouced as deceased. A very persistent EMT was able to revive him upon arrival at a hospital after 30 minutes of persistent CPR.

Two years after, Hank was hospitalized with a perforated stomach lining and other GIRD issues. The "ex-to-be" greeted him in the hospital annoucing that arrangements were in process and revealed the deed to a cemetary plot!

Two years ago, Hank was hospitalized with cardiac issues. Since then, a prostate cancer hospitalization, colon cancerous polyps removed and also treated for precancerous Barrett's Sydrome. He has been continuously receiving physical therapy for his spinal issues in the lower back (7 herniated levels) and cervical spine (also, all 7 levels having herniated dics).

The last two years resulted in 16 hospitalizations. Nine of which have been by ambulance!

This website is about the life of Hank in the process of divorce and his interactions with a "new significant other, Marla." Rob, the therapist is a long time friend of Hank's that was aware of problems in the marriage for years, but only recently discovered the depth of it when Hank approached him for help.

This is his story and also, as things happen, chronicle. This web site is about a "real time event."

The content of this web site is simply commentary and the profile of one man's story. This is not be be confused as to be professional advice of any sort. We urge all to seek professional advice. Please do not take any of this experience as the advice for your needs. All cases are different.